Well recently there has been some things happening, let start by first explaining why I decide to lock up this blog. I have invited only a few friends to read this blog. First of all I really don wish some people to read my blog so I made this decision. Some may ask who are they oh well let just say some people who I don wish to say. Secondly a friend of mine started her relationship some time in January however this guy doesn't seem to be able to meet her expectations. You all might be wondering is she a demanding girl ? Or is he really that insensetive ? Seriously both parties I got talk to I can't say the girl is really demanding afterall what a girl wants from a guy is just attention, affection. The problem is he just don't get his priorities right, he been placing friend first compare to her gf. Erm I do try to tell him on this before but he doesn't seem to get through. Maybe he is really simple minded and because of his actions she get so hurt. I standing at the side I see it very clearly I know what is happening but when I try to help it doesn't seem to be able to do anything. I know what she wants and she is just asking for the basic a bf should be doing. However the bf of hers I really have no idea what is he thinking for once you might think he is really serious for her but suddenly he can just suprise you with another stupid action of his.
I think at first maybe he is serious for her but then he just don know how to express himself or financially he cannot be supportive in this. Money do play an important role however if he cannot be supportive in this area there are many other things he could do to improve. However he alway don like to put any effort in this from what I see I begining to think he is trying to find reasons to push her off. Some things he could have done but he just don want to do it. I don know why or is this just his way of dealing in a relationship. From her point of view it looks like he is not serious for her at all and that is really hurtful to her. I chatted with her and to hear to crying on this issue not once , not twice but many times. I feel so sad and sorry for her too however if it is so painful then you all must be thinking why not just let go. There might be better guys out there for her that is the best solution for her isn't it ? Why bother to teach a dog a new tricks when you can buy one which has learnt it. Ok not very good expression here but the theory is correct. A bf who needs to be taught how to be a bf then that guy is really not suitable for her. In my point of view I really wish to stand on her side and stop defending him, but if I do that I scare I am like destroying a relationship. She ask me this why do you care so much ? I really have no idea on how to explain this, I really care as a friend.
Take another friend for an example, this friend of mine is one of my closest friend in singapore. He likes a girl but he tends to do wrong things and hurt her in the process. I know they both like each other so I would alway stand and defend him hoping they won't fall out because of some small issues which can be solved easily. In this case I see some similaries here even though not totally the same I would still hope they won't break up because of an issue which can be solved easily. However a fish without water will still die, I can save the fish once, or twice can't expect me to be guarding at the bank to save the fist forever. I don wish to be the one killing the fish but if the fish is meant to be killed then I rather it be killed naturally instead of man made. I standing at the side I would rather save something then killing it. Hope this would somehow explain my actions and hope this would be clearer to you if you are reading my blog.
Lastly I would wish that you don think too much about this, and hopefully it has been resolved. There are still many things to look out for and there are still many wonderful thingss just waiting to be happened. After a heavy storm what would one expect to see ? The answer is vey simple 7 beautiful colours will alway show up in the sky aka rainbow. Therefore the darkest period is only a transaction after that will follow up with something good and nice. Hope after reading this post might make you feel better. Remember to keep a smile on your face, life itself is already very hard and tough with so many work , homework, assignments. I would rather smile and take on the day rather than gloomy and dull whole day. A beautiful view exist as long as one is in good mood. When one is in bad mood, seeing a beautiful sun set can also be an ugly one. You get the idea so smile is the key and move on your life.
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To Evilgui I am wondering why is guni so happy for you, ask you is ther any good news you say don have. Of cause I have to trust you right anyway may your wish come true if it is what I think it is.
To Tina thanks for coming to visit and thanks for the wishes. Hopefully you can also get good results
To candy Well I have to apologise to you, perhaps I don have a limit in joking alway make you angry. Next time I will surely control myself. Don worry you will alway be my good friend no matter what happens.
To Jill If you are reading this, can you please do something about your blog? I really would like to see an update from you. Do I need to give you a call or someting haha. Take care and hope everything is fine for you.
To Nikki You are a nice, good and helpful person;therefore someone who don know how to appreciate you shouldn't be worthy of your tears perhaps your decision is correct. I know you will stand firm on your decision and don worry you will alway have my support and also the rest of the gang. :)
Jimmy stop typing at 5:28 PM
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